Question: My boyfriend is a database administrator working on a data warehouse project. He claims the project requires that he works 60 to 70 hours/week. Since the project began, he seems distant and we hardly are intimate any more. I’m worried that he’s seeing someone on the side. Should I be concerned?


Chuck Kelley’s Answer:First, let me say that I am not a psychologist, psychiatrist, social worker or counselor of any kind when it comes to relationships.Just ask my wife!However, 60 to 70 hours per week a few times during major deployment times is not unreasonable. But, that would only be a week or two.I would be concerned that your boyfriend is going to kill himself due to overwork.My wife complains about me being distant during those same times.My suggestion is to ask him.

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